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Quick Write 101911 “Duels & Duets”

Duel: a prearranged contest with deadly weapons between two people in order to settle a point of honor (OED)
Duet: a performance by two singers, instrumentalists, or dancers (OED) 
Which type of speech style is yours, the Duel type or the Duet type? Mine is definitely the Duet type because I’m a woman. What about you?

The article on Salon “Why do men and women talk differently?” http://life.salon.com/2011/10/16/why_do_men_and_women_talk_differently/singleton/ is a suggestive piece that has given me some sort of conviction about the gender differences in speech. The article introduces a newly-published book, “Duels and Duets: Why Men and Women Talk So Differently by John L. Locke”. Locke argues that, quote, “men and women have radically different ways of speaking … because they have radically different evolutionary needs. Men, he argues, use antagonistic speech, or “duels,” to show off their strength and prove themselves to women. Women, meanwhile, use quieter speech patterns to bond with each other - and help protect themselves against aggressive men.” Well, his argument seems legitimate to me after reflecting on what I’ve been through with people, both men and women. If you are allowed to attribute gender differences in speech, if there are any, to biology that is beyond your control, you’ll consider your life with other sex and/or same sex people a little more livable. No?

To be honest, I’m aware that I’m not very eloquent in argument or debate type of discussions, meaning I’m not a good “dueler”. I thought it was because I’ve yet to train myself for that kind of "productive" communication partly due to cultural factors, or I just lack knowledge, skills and insights for particular issues, both of which I admit still hold true, but I’ve gradually come to think that my gender and my birth order might come into play here.

I’m the only daughter with two older brothers, and was treated (or ignored?) as someone immature among siblings until the age of 11 or 12. When arguments between my parents or my brothers arose, I’d always find them just annoying, bothering, or even intimidating. The only wish of mime back then was to retrieve silence and peace of mind to me. It might’ve had something to do with that I was the youngest in the family who was never able to win over the older or settle the disputes, and that I was the only daughter who couldn’t share the uneasiness and uncomfortableness I’d had with other same-sex siblings no matter how I wanted to do so. Yes, girls love "unproductive" chatting, over-sharing feelings and emotions, and "dueting". I have no intention to blame my family or even myself on that account for anything, but I think my upbringing, just like many others’, has surely affected the way I communicate with people. It just makes me feel slightly better to know that there might be biological rationale that explains why I need some self-induced "push" to jump into those arguments or "dueling".

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