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Chivalry or Sexism?

Ladies, how does it feel like if a male opens a door for you or lets you exit an elevator first? Gentlemen, what do you usually do when you’re with a woman carrying a heavy bag or you two are about to go through the door that looks heavy to open? I recently read a series of articles regarding “chivalry” not in the medieval times, but in the modern world. According to our dependable, financially generous, and “always-there-for-you” English language tutor Merriam-Webster Com., chivalry is defined as 1: mounted men at arms, 2a: martial valor, 2b: knightly skill, 3: gallant or distinguished gentlemen, 4: the system, spirit, or customs of medieval knighthood, 5: the qualities of the ideal knight. I might be talking about the one close to the definition 3, but to make things surer, why not refer to the other reliable pedant Oxford Dictionary of English? ODE defines "chivalry" as “the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, namely courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and a readiness to help the weak”, or more specifically, “courteous behavior, especially that of a man towards women”.

The article titled “Chivalry is actually ‘benevolent sexism’, feminists concludes” http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/8575363/Chivalry-is-actually-benevolent-sexism-feminists-conclude.html reports that the researchers said that there are many acts of unnoticed sexism taking place every day through acts or comments that suggested women cannot cope without men’s help. Well, that could be one way to view the situation, but it sounds a little extreme or overreacting to me. The researchers astutely didn’t fail to mention the counterpart. They mentioned that females are also to blame because they endorse sexist beliefs not attending to subtle, aggregate forms of sexism in their personal lives. Okay, is that so, but what the hell? To me it’s more like that even if women ever notice whatever can be labeled as sexism going on, it’ll be no problem unless any serious consequences or actual damage or disadvantages are caused, or as long as any tangible and intangible benefits are to be brought to women. Am I being a happy-go-lucky simpleton or lacking serious contemplation here? I’m so sure that a clan of feminists would say so.

These days I stay at a business hotel once a week to teach an early morning class the next day. Whenever I take the elevator, almost all the males, both young and old, let me go first, which brings me a happy surprise each time. Yes, it’s rather rare for a woman to stay by herself at a hotel purely for business use, and probably business”men” staying there may feel obliged to display the spirit of "chivalry" in the elevator. This small, but very courtly act is enough to make me fulfilled and grateful for being a woman, though. I’m not really sure if they do so because I’m a woman or they do so to both men and women, but nothing hurts if I think this way! That said, I know that things were totally different if I were taking an elevator at a station or more public space. Most of the males who are supposed to be exhausted from commuting long distance and working extended hours pay "zero" attention to women in the small transporter and are very much ready to get out as soon as the door opens! While lodging at a business hotel, however, hotel guests would feel more intimate towards each other, like a one-night family or relatives, and were willing to be nice to a person taking the elevator together. It also seems to be related to Uchi (inside) - Soto (outside) kind of mindset deeply rooted in Japanese people.

What's very strange and even inconsistent is that I really hate to be offered to pay less than males after dining together, and insist to pay the equal amount. (I know I’m not obedient here, but that’s the way I am!) Of course I won’t refuse to be treated by a male friend or colleague depending on occasions, but in such cases, I’ll try to repay them in other times. Probably I don’t like the idea that women are financially weaker and seen as someone that needs financial support. Take my vocational experience for another instance. I’m an English teacher who works as a freelancer. When a job is offered seemingly on an account of that I’m a female teacher, I cannot help having mixed feelings. My rational minds try to convince me that I just can celebrate the fact that I’m acknowledged enough to be offered such an honorable job, but my irrational emotions invite me to unnecessary reconsideration, which goes like “What if I were a male teacher?” Sounds corny or too naïve to you? I know it does to some. In short, I’m willing to accept me as a woman who has innate weakness, whether physical or mental, but pretty much hesitant to admit that I need any help, aid, or charity for what I could have acquired by my own effort, such as money, social status or professional skills .

No matter what acclaimed researchers or influential feminists say, I like being treated as a woman. I even expect males to treat me as a woman, for I do so for males vice versa. I’m full aware that there are limitless varieties and possibilities of interpretation as to the act of treating someone as a woman, but let me just say that I very much enjoy being one. To be very honest, I sometimes hate myself being too "woman”. I often imagine that things would be way much simpler and easier if I were not equipped with such femininity. To conclude this self-serving piece before my dear readers get bored or frustrated, my message should be summed up here: Carry my baggage if you’re willing to do so, and give me nice compliments on my appearance if I deserve, but please be sure to charge me the same amount as yours, and offer a job if I’m qualified.

"A knight ther was, and that a worthy man,
That fro the tyme that he first bigan
To ryden out, he loved chivalryie,
Trouthe and honour, fredom and curteisye.
Ful worthy was he in his lordes werre,
And therto hadde he ridden, no man ferre,
As wel in Christendom as hethenesse.
And ever honoured for his worthinesse."

-Chauser, Canterbury Tales


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